Are you at that place of exhaustion, when you can’t pray anymore? The struggle has been going on for so long. You’re beyond weary of petitioning God.  Words feel mechanical and empty.

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It seems you’re just saying the same thing over and over, but nothing ever changes. What can you do?



When you no longer feel able to pray for the burdens on your heart – when you are tired and at a loss for words – that’s when the prayers of your brothers and sisters in Christ are SO refreshing and strengthening.

James chapter 5  says this:

Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. (NLT)


The Comfort of Fellowship

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I encourage you to seek out human comfort:

  • Find a friend you trust who loves God and loves you. Don’t hide your struggles. Take that step of courage, and embrace the vulnerability of sharing. Ask for prayer.
  • Join a prayer group where you lift each other up.
  • Not plugged into a church yet? Do some online research, and then visit one this Sunday. If they offer it, go up for prayer after the service.



The prayers of your earthly companions bring such relief. But what if I told you that Jesus Himself is praying for you? What if I told you that the Holy Spirit Himself is praying for you? It’s true.

Meditate on this: 

And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weaknesses.  For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray forBut the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words.  And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will.  – Romans 8:26-27 (NLT)

Jesus is able, once and forever, to save completely those who come to God through Him. He lives forever to intercede with God on [your] behalf. – Hebrews 7:25 (NLT)

Rest in Jesus. Abide in Him and receive His comfort. Trust that He is interceding for you in accordance with God’s will.

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You don’t have to find the right words. He’s already found them for you.




God alone is trustworthy and able. He doesn’t miss a thing. He sees you and loves you.



I’d be honored to offer a listening ear. If you’d like to share your thoughts and questions below, I will always respond.  — Blessings to you, Ali 🙂


  1. Thank you for this article. To be able to pray to The Holy Spirit, to pray for me is comforting.

    I have been fighting bladder problems for four years. The doctors have tried everything, and basically told me “nothing we can do”. My bladder is irritated constantly and I cannot sleep. Day after day I cannot sleep. I truly want to pass. No amount of prayer or pleadings changes my situation. Night time is a horror. I have fought the good fight for four years and am without the energy to go one.

    Pray for me.

    1. Dear Gerry, I am SO sorry to hear what you are going through. Suffering at night and not being able to sleep is truly torturous. I’ve experienced weeks of zero sleep — this was many years ago — and it was hellish. It messes with your head, and spiritually you can get in a really dark place. Yes, I am praying for you. Is it possible to get sleeping pills from the doctor? I’m sorry, I don’t know what to recommend. Praying for peace. May your spirit rest in His love, even if your body can’t. I will pray for your healing.

  2. I need help as it seems every year it gets harder to purposeful pray and not live robotic. It could be age and lack of family and purpose losing relationships to death, life and I think without being a wife or mom or grandma I’m a third wheel so I go less and less. In my small town yesterday sometimes people smile when they see me and say long time no see. I do go to church Sunday. I know who my Lord is but all my life I keep failing at being steady in prayer and now in last few years I would pray for others, cry, study, thankful and then just find I stopped. What’s wrong with me?
    I’m so scared now of the warning Luke warm I spit you out. Seems better to just stay cold for fear of the ups and downs.
    I don’t know you or your site and happened on it by typing why can’t I pray anymore.
    I have sometimes lead others to Christ because He put that chance there for me. I had been mighty warrior at times fighting for husbands salvation and drinking and then his broken neck and caregiving. I be seen evil in church undo others and seen miracles. I’m not blind and the way the world is I stay away from news and feel lived to long swing men looking like women, etc. Yet I know its Gods decision when I expire. I’m so sick of my ups and downs in my prayer life. At one time I had to stop crying for others due to becoming so sad in Spirit I felt God said its ok to stop.

    I have one son I live with who is single and struggles with life and works instead of claiming his PTSD which he tried and it was to complicated after 16 years u get it document in not out. He choose not to belly ache and is now ashamed of serving four in marines rest in army to be downsized last part like 1000 here to be replaced by he she’s scared to go to war. I have another son who has nothing to do with us or his own son married four times and gets VA high income and proud that he never had to work beyond ten years in army and thinks workers are fools. He hates me due to a bad thing someone did to him. My granddaughter loves me but is young and widely but God kept her safe one year living on streets by choice and she visited me but she went back to Florida to live with rich people and bad influences. Said boring in our small town and didn’t want go to church after third gime.
    People like me and I can carry on a conversation and make them smile. Its easy cause I like people generally but again its hard widowed and being careful not to become involved. Even church members older having sex like young people confuses me that I must be a stick like granddaughter thinks. Money has influenced her and her dad, my son. Her brother choose to stay on reservation being left there when his dad and mom divorced and works. His sister, my granddaughter got to be with her dad and have everything. She gives massages now and lives in house with other men and just chooses bad.
    I feel I keep failing at everything. I tried second marriage for nine years but he threw me out three times when his PTSD had him shooting gun in middle of night. Each time I went back and tried I loss more of myself. But loved being a wife
    If I can’t be faithful to the One and only that is faithful I’m sick and a fool. I don’t want promise anymore. But I fear he’ll even tho I was saved and forgiven due to Luke warm and or totally not engaged. I’m not depressed, just here 70 years

    1. Dear Janice,

      Thank you for being so authentic and for sharing your ups and downs. What a life you have had, thus far — walking with the Lord through 70 years! You know God’s faithfulness and you’ve seen His hand of grace and provision. Perhaps you long for refreshment? You’ve been traveling down life’s road for so long — you are almost at the end!

      But do you remember how you truly began? When you came to Jesus? It all started with His love. And grace! Being filled with the Holy Spirit — He is the guarantee of your salvation. Beginnings. Paul reminds you and me: “Having begun in the Spirit, are you now trying to finish by means of the flesh?” (Galatians 3:3).

      Are you feeling dry and weary? Then abide in Him, dear sister. Do so simply.

      Sit at Jesus’ feet. Are you carrying burdens that other people have given you, and some that you have picked on your own? These are not what Jesus wants you to carry! Lay them down. His yoke is easy, and His burden is light. For you, it is not about striving and struggling. It is about yielding.

      Intimate, conversational prayer is not some duty-bound task. Yes, there are many types of prayer, and some — such as intercessory prayer — require much effort and sacrifice. But to “pray without ceasing” means to commune with your sweet Daddy in Heaven! It’s having a gentle awareness of His Presence, His hand upon you, His Spirit within you.

      Wherever you find yourself right now, invite Jesus in to that space — the imperfection of the present. That’s the only place where God meets you. Where you are, as you are.

      You are so loved. SO loved. God’s love is beyond words.

      And speaking of “words”, the power of His Word is unrivaled — for change, for guidance, for life and refreshment. Here are several Scriptures on my heart — for you. And may you be blessed, dear sister:

      “Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28)

      “I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing!” (Galatians 2:21)

      “For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For you are His workmanship (handiwork / poem) , created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that you should walk in them.” (Ephesians 2:8-10) Do you see how the grace is yours and the work is His? All you need do is walk — in the Spirit and by faith (not sight).

      “God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.” (1 John 4:16)

  3. Please pray for my business financial debts,im facing extreme amount of problems day by day..i hanging on to my life..i cant go on much longer

    1. Col, I am so sorry to hear this! I would have responded sooner, but I didn’t get this notification until just now. I am praying for you! Financial hardship can be crushing. I too have experienced this. It’s like a pit you can’t crawl out of. I am lifting your crisis up to the Lord. When you say “hanging onto my life”, and that you “can’t go on much longer” I hope you are not contemplating suicide! There are solutions, and getting good counseling is an excellent first step. Sometimes it’s hard to know where to turn.

      Jesus is real. He loves you and is WITH you in this and through this — if you want Him to be. Do you by any chance have a church nearby that teaches from the Bible and leads people to trust in Jesus? They might offer counseling.

      Honestly, worshiping God really helps me get a handle on things. It gives perspective when you see how holy, awesome and wonderful God is — and that His thoughts are always towards you. He is FOR you! Do you worship much?

      Please let me know how you are doing and how I can continue to pray for you.
      — Ali

  4. Hello. I want some things to go back to normal for me. But I don’t know if that’s what God wants. I feel so odd sometimes. My job changed and I wanted so badly to be treated better. But instead I quit my job and now am trying to find my way somewhere new. I find that my confidence in everything was tied to having a steady job, income, insurance and happiness with tasks and coworkers. I don’t know how to trust my future or my parenting abilities without the solace my familiar job provided. And now I want to go back but feel God is testing me with this new opportunity. I gave myself 90 days to try out this new job. But what happens after that? I know I’m praying for a chance to return to my old place of employment but what if there aren’t any jobs there? Trying to be thankful for what He has provided!

    1. I am praying for you today, Andy. Decisions like job changes can be stressful. It’s so hard to know whether to leave a job you dislike but is known and comfortable — or, to stay because the unknown is “worse”.

      Pray for God’s guidance, as you have been — this is the beginning, middle and end itself. God doesn’t usually write His answers in the sky, though I do sometimes wish He did. 😊 But! He cares far more about the intimacy of His relationship with you than about convenient answers. Periods of uncertainty like what you’re going through press you closer to Him. He knows all the icky anxious feelings you’re having. Invite Him into the middle of it all — just to sit with Him in it. When you walk through trials with God at your side, try to rely upon Him and choose to trust Him. Trust is not an emotion — it is a choice. Sometimes you need to surrender your worries to God many times in a day. That’s okay, and it’s our human condition that causes your mind to wander back to unhealthy worries.

      Try not to overthink or second guess your decision to quit the other job. Wherever you find yourself today, accept it and meet with God in the present. Don’t waste time and energy wishing you’d done something different. Your heavenly Father knows and holds your future. Being in Him and growing closer to Him is more important than the timeline of life’s circumstances, dramas and changes.

      Spend time with Jesus. Read His Word and take moments of stillness with the God who is Love.

      Blessings to you,
      Ali 😊

  5. I am going through a lot right now and I don’t know how to pray. To find the focus and to be mindful to do it everyday. I hate going to god trying to be someone I’m not!!! Please help me

    1. Dear Tyi, thank you so much for being authentic, vulnerable — and sharing your heart. Jesus knows your heart. So, if you feel like you’re trying to be someone you’re not, it’s only you that you are deceiving. Jesus knows. He knows it all. He knows you better than you know yourself. And here’s the best part. He LOVES you infinitely more than anyone else does or ever could! And this, all in spite of the things you’re struggling with or ashamed of. God knows the deepest darkest places of your heart — and He wants you to invite Him in there too.

      God’s love is so amazing, and His love is for YOU, dear friend.

      How big is His love? He came from heaven to earth, clothed Himself in human flesh, took the name “Jesus” (which means, “God saves”) and lived a perfect life. He then received the punishment for all the blackest, darkest acts of evil in the world — every sin ever committed — and He died on a cross 2000 years ago. Three days later, Jesus triumphed over death and rose from the dead.

      God is Love. THIS is love. All you need do is put your full trust in Jesus — believe in Him — surrender control of your life — to Him. He is worthy. And in His hands is the safest place you’ll ever be.

      Once you are sorry for the things you’ve done wrong, ask Him to forgive you, and He does! Instantly!! Your sin was nailed to the cross with Him! His blood was shed on your behalf. God’s blood cleansed your sin. Think of that! And now, when you become His, you are free!

      With regards to praying, it’s not about words or saying things right or trying to “present” to God. Jesus does the “presenting” for you — He took your sin, you take His righteousness. What an exchange! You can pray in your heart, without even speaking. You can cry and if your heart is directed towards God, no words, just tears. Do you see? God sees your HEART.

      Once you are “in Christ” — this means you’ve repented of sin and surrendered your life to Jesus, believing in Him and trusting Him — you are a new creation. And being in Him, as I said before, is the safest most peaceful place to be. Sure, your emotions may ebb and flow, but once you yield to Jesus, and you’re no longer the one in charge, He becomes your anchor. The storms of life may crash around you, but He holds you safe and secure. He is in control.

      Prayer is more an attitude of your heart towards Jesus than it is about finding those perfect words. So don’t worry about “scheduling” time to pray every day — allow Jesus into every aspect of your life — talk to Him about what’s going on right now. Commune with Him in your heart, in your spirit — moment by moment. He LOVES just to be with you.

      I hope this helps. Here is my testimony about how I came to know God, and perhaps it will encourage you:

      Also, you may find these three posts helpful: , ,

      I am praying for you. Feel free to comment on other posts too, and I will answer there too. If you click on the “God” category in the menu, you will also see other articles. — blessings to you, Ali

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